That voice inside my head judges most of what I do. Sometimes it’s helpful but most of the time it keeps me from making the contribution I was made to have in the lives of people around me.
I’m sure you’ve felt that way too. Like someone else is pulling the strings and manipulating you as you interact with clients, coworkers and family. It seems innocent enough but being constrained by other’s voices in our heads actually prevents us from contributing our best work.
Some of my most limiting mental conversations stem from family and friends. Don’t ask too many questions. Be quiet. No one likes a know-it-all. You can’t do that. Who can forget being chosen last for school teams? There’s always the expectations on high achievers or athletes or drama people… If you ever find yourself thinking, “I can’t do that.” or “It won’t work for me.” or “They won’t like me after this.” this blog is for you.
You, my friend are created to contribute. You are uniquely wired to add marvelous value to others and the super-power you have is FAR more powerful than what anyone has ever said or done to you. You were not an accident or mistake or problem. Your unique style adds texture, emotion and excitement to every business deal, every relationship and every adventure.
When I discovered SDI (Strength Deployment Inventory) and how it validated my unique wiring, my individual style and my personal contribution, I felt more alive, more confident and more sure of my direction. It explained so much about why sales was hard but people were fun. It helped me see why I figure things out quickly and enjoy following leaders (but become the leader when there’s not in my area.) It affirmed the primary ways I improve my self-worth and helped me see how other’s opinions often matter more than they should.
Dare to explore what makes you unique and the strengths you tend to access as you’re helping others, leading your team forward or keeping things organized. Be fearless. Be curious. Be brave. You have much to offer the people around you.
If you’d like to learn more about what most naturally builds your sense of worth and see ways you might be able to uniquely contribute at work, with friends and at home with family, I’d love to hear from you!